Victim or Warrior?

The current crisis has left us all in a very unique situation – one we never expected to be in. Many of us are feeling vulnerable and afraid. During times of tragedy and trauma, it’s easy to fall into despair.

One of the things that really helped me after I lost my home during Hurricane Harvey was a saying I heard years ago, “Things are not happening to us, they are happening for us”.

I don’t know who said those words but I clung to them. I couldn’t see how such a devastating situation could be working for me, but those words gave me hope and helped me not to fall into the despair that was constantly calling my name.

During this time of sheltering at home, toilet paper hoarding and generalized fear, I encourage you to focus on what you do have and not on what’s been lost.

Difficult times may be inevitable but being a victim is a choice. It’s a way of seeing yourself and the world around you. Something bad may be happening to you but it doesn’t have to define you.

This pandemic has forced us all to make a choice. Who do you want to be in the current situation?

A coaching associate of mine, Kirk Souder, wrote an article about this very thing. He re-frames this time of social distancing and compares it to cocooning. Rather than seeing this as a time of isolation and deprivation, we can use this time for transformation and, like the butterfly, emerge from our cocoons better than before.

Click here to read Kirk’s article.

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